All,

A few quick things -
First, group owners, thanks for letting me spam your groups! I appreciate you letting me get the word out via your venues and I promise that it will be infrequent. Matter of fact, at our little gather, we will start out by opening the floor to any group announcements from any group that is Ds related.

Second, to address a few emails.
- If you are new or just interested, then yes, feel free to attend! Just understand this is relationship speak, not scene based.
- No need to RSVP, just show up
- This gather is not part of or sponsored by any group. There are Ds and Ms groups in town and around town already and I hope to get re-involved in those as well. I have no clue what form this little gather will take in the future.

* What – Ms roundtable
* When – 6 PM, June 21rst
* Who – anyone interested in Ms/Ds as a lifestyle
* Where – And we have a “Where” now. We have reserved a room at the The King Avenue Five (since we are not a ‘group’, just ask for Dan and dawn). The King Avenue Five is located at 945 King Avenue between Kenny and Olentangy River Road, less than a quarter mile away from the Lennox Town Center; minutes away from downtown Grandview Heights and The Ohio State University. Ample parking is available. Please note – the room is free, but they would be happy if we ordered something from the menu and ate there.

A few days ago I told (my submissive) to do something. I did not tell her to have it done by Monday or by any specific day. But I feel like it should have been done by now.

This could be considered unfair of me to have expectations and not clearly communicate them, and in a younger relationship it would be.

But there gets to a point of being instinctive. On my part and on hers.

I told (my submissive)”do this” and I feel like it should be done now. Cultivating instinct – I feel thus, and thus I act, and act rightly – is very important to develop in a Dom/me. And actually…act rightly isn’t as important as action.

For me, the trick is don’t let your brain get too involved in this. My brain checked in – “how long has it been; what else is going on; were my instructions clear?” but I have to be careful that I won’t make excuses. The instinct – this should be done by now – comes first. Then, the brain is only used to temper my response. Should there be punishment (significant physical or loss of privilege), discipline (stand in the corner, write an apology, or kneel while I explain the failure) or just a push (not so gentle reminder, vocal confirmation that she is working on it).