Punishment by instict? Ms post
A few days ago I told (my submissive) to do something. I did not tell her to have it done by Monday or by any specific day. But I feel like it should have been done by now.
This could be considered unfair of me to have expectations and not clearly communicate them, and in a younger relationship it would be.
But there gets to a point of being instinctive. On my part and on hers.
I told (my submissive)”do this” and I feel like it should be done now. Cultivating instinct – I feel thus, and thus I act, and act rightly – is very important to develop in a Dom/me. And actually…act rightly isn’t as important as action.
For me, the trick is don’t let your brain get too involved in this. My brain checked in – “how long has it been; what else is going on; were my instructions clear?” but I have to be careful that I won’t make excuses. The instinct – this should be done by now – comes first. Then, the brain is only used to temper my response. Should there be punishment (significant physical or loss of privilege), discipline (stand in the corner, write an apology, or kneel while I explain the failure) or just a push (not so gentle reminder, vocal confirmation that she is working on it).
